Cultivating Connections: A Necessary Ingredient for Growth in Life and in Business

By Tasha M. Scott

A few weeks ago, as I was sitting in a Leadership Montgomery class, I heard the instructor say that she spent close to $100,000 on Executive Coaching trying to get a grip on her procrastination issues, one of the hindrances to her growth potential. I know you’re probably thinking: 

"$100,000…say what?!?!?"

“I would NEVER do that."

“Girl, you’re crazy.” 

I know! I thought it, too.

But, before we laugh hysterically or call another woman crazy; what if we looked in our own backyards? 

Of course, MOST of us don’t have $100,000 to blow; however, what about another resource we all have in common: TIME!

We all get the same 24 hours every single day. So replace her $100,000 with your time and think about yourself.

Where have you spent an unreasonable amount of time trying to deal with your issues, on your own?

Wasted time is worse than wasted money. Money can be replenished. Time that has past is gone forever. We’ll never get that time back again.

Now, think about those lingering issues.

Issues we all face like procrastination, self-doubt, second guessing, unhealthy comparison, only to name a few, can sabotage our growth potential! These issues prevent us from making progress because every time we take two steps forward, we feel like we are taking three steps backwards. Our weaknesses threaten our productivity.

Knowing that we only have 24 hours, we really don’t have time to waste so how can we maximize our growth potential?

I’ve learned the key to growth, no matter the area, ultimately boils down to this:  Cultivating Connections.

To experience fulfilling growth, we NEED connections.  

  • Connection to God
  • Connection to ourselves
  • Connection to others

Right before I wrote “Don’t Limit Me,” I had to address my anger issues with God. After getting honest, hope returned and I reconnected with Him. My eyes were opened to limitless possibilities that were awaiting me: new marriage, new business, renewed peace and confidence. I’m still discovering more benefits daily.

This connection with God led me to have a better connection with myself. I began to see myself in a different light. Suddenly, I didn’t look at myself as a victim but as a woman full of possibilities, a woman that I could honestly say I love.

My connection to myself helped me to properly view others through a filter of love not intimidation or judgment. I learned that when I love myself, I can genuinely celebrate another woman without fear of her light dimming mine.

Do you see how one healthy connection (God) lead to another (me) and on to another (others)?

We are wired for connection - so it makes sense that if we want to truly grow, that we need to learn how to cultivate connection.

In order to experience this dynamic growth - we’ve got to get out of our comfort zones and embrace the newness of what could be. That requires we shift our focus from weaknesses-focused to strengths-focused.

Imagine the possibilities that await you knowing that you COULD walk in your strength zone ALL THE TIME.  That can only happen if we cultivate the right connections in our lives and in our businesses. 

I believe wholeheartedly in the phrase: Maximize your strengths, outsource your weaknesses.

Some other ways you can cultivate connections:

  • Regular quiet time with God
  • Reading the Bible
  • Listening to Worship Music
  • Listening to Biblical Message that relate to your current season of life and business
  • Meditating on the above
  • Normal routine of self-care with yourself
  • Spending quality time with family
  • Enjoying the company of good friends
  • Accountability partners or groups
  • Coaches and mentors
  • Attend live events
  • Build a support team within your business

These are just a few examples, feel free to be as creative as you like in cultivating your own connections.

Our growth possibilities are limitless when we’re willing to embrace the power of cultivating connections in our lives and in our businesses.